The Life You Didn't Plan: Why women were taught to make marriage the whole story and how to rewrite it
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The Life You Didn't Plan: Why women were taught to make marriage the whole story and how to rewrite it
Sale price
$28.99
Regular price $34.99
For generations, women have been sold a story.
Find a man. Get married. Have kids. Be chosen. Be grateful. Make it work, no matter what.
And if your life didn’t unfold that way? If your marriage ended, your white knight never arrived, the kids left home, your relationship felt lonely, or midlife turned up with the deeply inconvenient question of how the hell did I get here?, you were the one left wondering what you did wrong.
What if nothing went wrong?
What if the map was bullshit?
The Life You Didn’t Plan is a sharp, compassionate, funny, and deeply feminist book for women who are ready to stop organising their entire lives around love, marriage, motherhood, and finding a life partner.
Integrative psychotherapist Cheryl Kennedy MacDonald explores why intelligent, capable women can still feel undone by divorce, childlessness, ageing, rejection, loneliness, or the fear of being alone, because we were taught that being chosen was the ultimate prize in life.
This book is not anti-men or anti-marriage. It’s not a call to blow up your life because you’re bored on a Thursday.
It's about waking up inside the story you inherited and asking whether this actually works for you.
Inside, Cheryl explores:
But it cannot be the whole of your life.
For every woman who is single and tired of explaining herself, married but emotionally alone, divorced and rebuilding, childless by choice or circumstance, watching the kids leave home, or simply looking around at midlife thinking, right, now what?
This book is for you.
Because the life you didn’t plan might be one that nobody told you was available.
Find a man. Get married. Have kids. Be chosen. Be grateful. Make it work, no matter what.
And if your life didn’t unfold that way? If your marriage ended, your white knight never arrived, the kids left home, your relationship felt lonely, or midlife turned up with the deeply inconvenient question of how the hell did I get here?, you were the one left wondering what you did wrong.
What if nothing went wrong?
What if the map was bullshit?
The Life You Didn’t Plan is a sharp, compassionate, funny, and deeply feminist book for women who are ready to stop organising their entire lives around love, marriage, motherhood, and finding a life partner.
Integrative psychotherapist Cheryl Kennedy MacDonald explores why intelligent, capable women can still feel undone by divorce, childlessness, ageing, rejection, loneliness, or the fear of being alone, because we were taught that being chosen was the ultimate prize in life.
This book is not anti-men or anti-marriage. It’s not a call to blow up your life because you’re bored on a Thursday.
It's about waking up inside the story you inherited and asking whether this actually works for you.
Inside, Cheryl explores:
- why marriage was positioned as the ultimate goal in women’s lives and why there were social and economic reasons for that
- why knowing better doesn’t always stop you being sucked into the story
- why divorce can feel like grieving an imagined future
- why never marrying, not having children, or living outside the expected timeline doesn't mean you've failed at life
- why inconsistent men can feel so bloody addictive
- why alone is not the same as lonely
- why money, female friendship, health, purpose, and self-respect are not optional extras
- how to stay, leave, love, rebuild, or begin again without disappearing inside someone else’s life
But it cannot be the whole of your life.
For every woman who is single and tired of explaining herself, married but emotionally alone, divorced and rebuilding, childless by choice or circumstance, watching the kids leave home, or simply looking around at midlife thinking, right, now what?
This book is for you.
Because the life you didn’t plan might be one that nobody told you was available.